About two years ago I went through a body change, I think I
left my teen years behind and shifted into womanhood. Even though I still get the shock of, “I
can’t believe you’re 30. I thought you
were 19,” I have indeed gained some of those womanly curves that usually hits
the 20-something’s.
In the last few months I have been thinking about what it
means to accept yourself for who you are. And I’ve decided that this is a pretty important part of getting the
future generations to see beauty in all its forms.
What got my brain working was a funny sort of comment from a 4-year-old boy who I often watch. He
noticed that I don’t have a flat butt, and he found that funny and
strange. I handled it as well as I
could. I tried to help him understand
that it’s no big deal, no pun intended, and that people aren't all the same
shape.
Later on as I was going about my work I wondered if I had
said the right things or not? I finally
came to the conclusion that if I’m ashamed of who I am, I am teaching him
to look at others with a bad judgment in the future. If he grows up to find straight frames
attractive that’s ok, but I hope he will see beauty in a more complete way
because of my words of confidence in who I am.
My other interaction was with a 6-year-old girl whom I also
look after often. She asked me very
plainly, “Why are you fat?” without missing a beat I said, “Oh, I’m not fat,
I’m just a different shape.” For which
she returned, “Than why are your legs big?” reply, “Because I’m very strong. I have lots of muscles.”
This is actually very true.
I have always been this build. As a kid I lived on the trampoline, and now with cleaning houses I have gained even more strength, sometimes carrying 60 LB. It may sound like I’m defending myself I guess, but really I'm just giving you some back story to this blog. I
learned to accept my build in my early 20’s and decided that I'm very attractive as I am.
If I wasn't strong and healthy then I think I might feel a
little more insecure on this topic, but truthfully, I am, as my life insurance
police stated, "Health Preferred".
Through all of this, I've been thinking of moms all over who
keep saying they are fat, I need to be thinner, I’m not pretty because I’m not
(Blank). And I keep thinking that we women might
be teaching kids to think there is only one way to be considered physically attractive
and that's a huge mistake.
So ladies, I hope you will think on this one for a bit. Ask yourself if you’re living a healthy life,
and if the answer is yes, than start standing up for yourself and don’t apologize
for not being one build or another. The
same goes for ladies who are naturally thin and wish they had more curves,
DON’T do it, accept who you are and love who you are...because ladies, God made you who you are and that's a big deal.
Psalm 139:9- 19 "If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I
settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast. If
I say, "Surely the darkness will hide me and the light become night around
me," even the darkness will not be dark to you;
the night will shine like the day, for darkness is as light to you. For you created my inmost being; you
knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are
wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was
not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When
I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days
ordained for me were written in your book before one of
them came to be. How
precious to me are your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of them! Were I to count them, they
would outnumber the grains of sand. When I awake, I am still with you. If only you would slay the wicked, O God!
Away from me, you bloodthirsty men!
Check out this link to an Article about why Barbie's body isn't real
